Life's Like That...!!!

HE will keep testing you from time to time and you will see lots of UP's and DOWN's......try to never give up, you will definitely succeed in HIS test.....

Saturday, October 31, 2015

Life has it's own plans for you, whether you like them or not...!!!

"Everyone secretly thinks they've figured out what their life's gonna be like.
But what no one ever considers is that life has its own plans for you, whether you like them or not.
So don't try to define it totally on your own, better understand the flow and act, or you'll be disappointed."

The last month was pretty tiresome. I was out on different trips in different parts of the country. During the travel time in each trip and during the stay I had interactions with many different types of people. From the stay part, I knew each and everyone beforehand, but never had any opportunity to interact with them intimately. Somehow, I indulged in conversations on different levels with few elders also who never talked to me on the level at which they would have discussed earlier, maybe due to my age (Maybe I've started looking more mature? :D ).

Anyway, whatever the case maybe, Life never stops screwing up with us. If we think that we've handled one situation, another one will come which surely we'd have neglected. If I try to be precise, there are four different fronts in life on which we have to act and manage simultaneously:
  1. Emotional: Comprises of parts from family life to love life.
  2. Intellectual: Portions where we try to satisfy our intellectual needs. Simple example, "Mental Satisfaction during Work".
  3. Financial: Money, how to earn so much, that you can satisfy your needs and responsibilities.
  4. Social: Skip family and love and then everything dealing from relatives to friends to colleagues to etc. etc. etc. will come under it.

Now comes the part where you must be thinking that few things are interrelated. Lets start with 2 at a time.
  1. Emotional + Intellectual: One of the combinations where our life gets messed up because each of them has to be partially compromised. If you choose to work at a place where you're mentally satisfied, then you might end up loosing your loved one. Vice-versa is also applicable.
  2. Financial + Intellectual: Ask anyone working in a big firm, not more than 5% will be satisfied with the work they'll be doing. They are surviving there due to (90% chance) financial reasons as they're being given huge salaries. Now the trend is changing, but still many small companies are there which are doing remarkable work but are yet waiting for some big VC to get funding. If you're stuck there during that time, you're definitely surviving on small bread crumbs to satisfy your intellectual needs.
  3. Emotional + Financial: Stating an easy example of a common Indian man. He wants to go abroad to earn, but family restrictions comes in his ways (obviously a big responsibility).
 ***Social: I'm skipped this one, as humans are becoming inert day by day. No one gives a shit about anyone apart from their first relations and the person with whom they're closely/emotionally associated with.

Okay, Let's take an easy and obvious case of all three main points together.
  • Emotional + Intellectual + Financial: Club all the problems in the above section where we discussed 2 of them at a time. Small example, you get the opportunity, but you are not able to go to that place either due to family or love life. Financial and (maybe) intellectual sacrifice. Another example, your family requires you to earn high. Even you're earning high, but you don't have decent work here. Intellectual sacrifice, it is.
Similarly loads and loads of cases I've seen which puts us in a state of dilemma and we end up sacrificing one or sometimes on two of the fronts of our life.


Obviously, we can't handle all of them together. There comes the problem that when we start bothering ourselves about these things. But you know what, recently I realized that life's like that only. There's no point bothering about it. It always screws up and plays around with us. This at the end leads us to "quarter-life crisis" when we're young (making us think what we are up to) and at later stage the same situation is called "mid-life crisis"(making us think what we were up to).

I can easily predict the obvious and biggest question that keeps on coming to everyone's mind who has started thinking or relating the things from their life as they are going through this post or have been through any of these situations or phases of compromises during their lifespan, is:


Well, it can't be avoided. Only the misery can be reduced. Reason is, firstly, we're designed like that by HIM. We'll never be able to stop those thoughts that comes to our mind and they'll always bother us. Believe me, you'll never be satisfied (unless you reach the stage of NIRVANA). Only thing we can do is to think less about it, which is possible only when we keep ourselves busy in different stuff. Again, "stuff" we'll be doing, those obviously come from what targets we set in our lives, right? In short, worry again, as targets not getting fulfilled. So, as my dad told me once and as Britishers have ruled India, "Divide and Rule". So first, have a long term plan, have a vague picture (Why Vague?, Read the first bold and quoted line in the post.) and then divide the vague picture to have short term targets. Okay let's sum it up:
  1. Keep yourselves busy, with short term targets and hobbies.
  2. To set short term targets, first have a vague picture of long term target (Why Vague?, Read the first bold and quoted line in the post)
  3. Divide vague picture into small short term targets. Repeat Step one.
I understand that it's tough to implement everything precisely, but at least we can make some efforts by not loosing our patience, right?

PS: Those who reached till here, I want to add that I'm just a 25 year old guy who hasn't seen much in his life, so might not be the right person to take advice. But I've been through (or in a way still going through) the crisis and have wondered a lot how to figure it out. During the trips I met a person (who played an important part in my life of what I'm right now) after long time and realized he is sort of in his Mid-Life crisis. We had a discussion for couple of hours. This post is majorly from the discussion I had with him and remaining part of it is derived from the person who falls under my emotional front.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

The Book Thief - Markus Zusak

Book: The Book Thief
Author: Markus Zusak
Rating: 5/5

Pages: 592
ISBN-10: 186230291X 
ISBN-13: 978-1862302914

I'd like to start by quoting what I wrote on Goodreads after completing the book.

There are no words to describe the beauty and perfection with which it has been written. I'll just say that if you want to read something perfect, this is it."

First few general pointers about the plot:

1) The story of the book revolves around a young girl, Liesel Meminger, around the time of world war II. 

2) The book has been narrated by "Death".

The book starts somewhere by the graveyard, where by her brother's graveside Liesel grabs upon a book, "The Gravedigger's Handbook", which was left abandoned in snow. The book thief's first book.

With Liesel being sent to live with her foster parents, Rosa and Hans Hubermann, the story revolves around these three characters and Rudy Steiner (Liesel's best friend).

From the story perspective, it could have just been taken as any normal book. However, the author has put a beautiful tincture of narration by death that makes it exceptionally amazing. The book has been written in so much poetic way that each and every line is worth reading and re-reading.

Here are the few instances from the book that I'd like to quote:

Death: "People observe the colors of a day only at its beginnings and ends, but to me it’s quite clear that a day merges through a multitude of shades and intonations, with each passing moment. A single hour can consist of thousands of different colors. Waxy yellows, cloud-spat blues. Murky darknesses. In my line of work, I make it a point to notice them."


Death: "Yes I know it.
In the darkness of my dark-beating heart, I know. He'd have loved it all right.
You see?
Even death has a heart."


Death: "You don’t deserve to be this happy, Liesel. You really don’t.
Can a person steal happiness? Or is it just another internal, infernal human trick?"


Death: "She walked through the corridor darkness in the direction of silence that had once been noisy, toward the thread of moonlight standing in the living room."

These are just few of my favorite instances. The whole book is a perfect example of a combo of beauty-perfection-class.

PS: One of my friend told me that you'll fall in love with this book if you'll read it. The first thing, after finishing the book, I did was to ping her and first thing she told was "Pyaar ho gya na? (Fell in love, right?)" Believe me, that was true, I did fell in love with it.


The Recession Groom - Vani

Book: The Recession Groom
Author: Vani
Rating: 2.5/5

Pages: 295
ISBN-10: 9384226580
ISBN-13: 978-9384226589

The story of the book revolves around a guy, Parshuraman Joshi, from India who settled abroad for work after his higher studies.

As the title of the book suggests, the story goes on in a very expected pattern. The guy earns a decently good salary and his family, as always happens in many Indian families, wants to get him married. The reason for getting him married is that he will soon turn 30(in couple years), he will expire in the marriage market and he won't get good girls after that. However, as the story proceeds, his sister, Ragini, in India tries to fix his marriage. On the other hand, his aunt Parvati, with whom he lived and finished his higher studies get proposals for him. While the whole drama continues, "Recession" hits him and he loses his job (pretty much predictable from the title).

The rest of the story follows with how he manages his life through the phases of joblessness and part-time job, while he tries to get his hands on a good full-time employer along with coping up with his family's reactions to the situation. The book perfectly portrays the reaction of the melodrama of how relatives in any typical Indian society reacts to different situation.

  • Writing style was decently good
  • Few punch lines were their which will make you laugh

  • Too much of melodrama, could have been avoided,
  • Don't expect any twist and turns in the book. Simple and straight forward story, as you'd predict.
  • Ending was totally and typically Indian movie style. Disappointed.

You can try it if you want to read something decent from an Indian author after being bored from Chetan Bhagat and similar authors.

PS: Special thanks to The Readers Cosmos for providing the opportunity to review the same.

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