Life! Love! Chaos! Death! But...

Message:

Our days are numbered
And so is this love,
But the blues,
Like longing,
They stay.
Mother,
Will I stop dying,
Someday?
                      - Mona

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Response:

Our days maybe numbered,
But not the love.
In the eternity of lifetime.
It's all upon us,
How we choose it to spread.

The blues,
They make us better,
For whatever is coming next.

Just take one day at a time,
Savor every moment;
Until death comes,
When we just mock it on it's face,
As it failed to make us miserable,
For every single day we lived and loved.
                                                      -Me

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Story of the above lines is that I woke up today with some lines sent to me by a friend. I ended up responding to her on similar lines. The conversation was interesting, so just felt like sharing a small snippet of it here.

Anyway, it's good to scribble down whatever is there in our mind. Remember the Pensieve which Dumbledore used to use in Harry Potter? Writing just works exactly like that. And it's really helpful to lighten the mind and keep oneself away from all such noise as we already have too much to take care of in our day-to-day life, don't we? Well, we can't literally get-rid of thoughts of events from our past but at-least we can learn from it. In the end, it all boils down to how we perceive the situations in our day-to-day life and how with the help of that we end up finding our purpose. As Austrian Psychologist, Wilhelm Stekel said:

"The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one."

So, "finding the purpose and living by it" is the key. But it ain't easy.
1) How we work upon finding our purpose?
2) How we act when we don't find the purpose or have that feeling that we're lost and have no purpose in life?

These 2 questions defines many things in life. At any given point of time, we must be prepared to give 100% to our purpose, fulfill our karma or dissolve it, and then let go of that specific form of living. However, there will be phases when we won't know our purpose and probably be confused to hell. At that moment, we must be capable of not knowing what to do with our life, entering a period of not knowing and waiting for a vision or a new form of purpose to emerge. These cycles of strong specific action followed by periods of not knowing what the hell is going on are natural for everyone. The only key here is not to panic during the phase when we're not clear.

However, the toughest dilemma in our life comes when too many situations, on a personal and/or professional level, suddenly start to hit us from all directions. Believe me, till 1.5 years back, I had a relatively chaotic personal and professional life. To add to the misery, I had no idea how to handle it. But then I realized, the things for which I'm bothered about are not worthy of the time I'm giving them. Since then I choose whatever in life is worth bothering about, by asking these questions: Can I resolve the problem by giving some time and/or money of mine over next few days or months? Is the problem worth spending the resources I'm about to spend? If yes, then I add that task as "To Do" in my list along-with a mental note of upper limit for the amount of resources that I'm willing to spend. If no, then I remove that thought from my mind (and task from my life) because I anyway can't resolve it even by giving my time and money to the problem. Since then, the life is so much amazing, positive and fulfilling. Oh, just beware of the fact that sometimes, the "PROBLEM" can be "PEOPLE" too. No matter how close we are to them, we need to learn how to maintain distance from them.

To add to what I just said in the above paragraphs, last week when I started reading this book, "The Subtle Art of not giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson, I was surprised to read what I've already been implementing in my life from the past one year. I know that sometimes situations/people are so important that we need to give a f*ck about them. What to do in those times? Like, if our parents are involved in some situation and we don't know how to bail out from the situation because it's expected that we help them out, right? So what do we do? We simply get ourselves involved and ask above questions by putting ourselves completely in their shoes. See if we find the answer as "yes or no".  If answer is "no", then tell them why it can't be done with proper reasoning. It might be tough to explain to them, but that's something we all have to handle.

Well, just to be practical, the above logic won't always work because we're humans at the end of day and our mind is capable to generate millions of thoughts at any given time. But don't forget, our mind is also capable of handling those millions of thoughts also. Maybe we need to start with just the questions, followed by calming ourselves when we feel anxiety because things ain't in our control. It eventually comes to us. It really does, because when we start asking questions, we as well start answering them. That's when we realize that we've smartly drifted our mind away from anxiety and have already started working on a solution. Voila..!!

Have a great life ahead..!!